We keep having the same fights, why can’t we move past the same patterns?
What can we expect if we decide to do this?
Initial phone call
We will talk for about 20 minutes. You can decide if you feel like I am the right person to help you, and then we will determine if this type of assessment is right for you both at this time. I am happy to talk to each of you together or separately if that would be helpful.
First meeting
We will spend about 2 hours all together. Some time will be spent answering your questions about the assessment process. We will then focus on naming and exploring the questions you hope to answer about your relationship and yourselves.
Testing sessions
You will each complete most testing sessions separately in order to understand yourself better before we work to understand your part of the patterns in the relationship. To that end, you will each spend between 2-6 sessions, lasting 2-4 hours (depending on your needs and questions) doing assessments and exploring what the tests might be saying about your daily experience in the world. Sometimes it is best for your partner(s) to be present during the testing sessions as it often builds understanding between you. We will discuss what makes sense for you each in the relationship.
Discussing results
After the testing sessions are done, we will usually have already answered most of your assessment questions together. We will meet 1-3 times more all together to consolidate that information and discuss what your next steps might be to help things improve. If you are seeing a couples therapist, it is often very helpful to have them join us for these discussion sessions.
Summary Letter
After we complete the discussion session(s), I will write a joint letter to you listing your questions and summarizing the answers we found. The letter will include the next steps and recommendations we talked about.
Optional Follow Up Session
You might find it helpful to meet again several weeks after the discussion session to check in, share and process new insights or revelations, and to fine-tune the steps you are taking to move forward in your joint goals.